3 Tips for Your Child's SuccessOct 25, 2021
Most parents do everything possible to get their kids into college and help them succeed, but is it enough? Especially during the pandemic, parents are spending over US$123 Billion in 2020 on private tutoring. 1
And tutoring costs are on top of other fees, like music lessons, sports, and/or private school tuition. Often parents spend hundreds of dollars to increase an SAT score a just a few points.
In other words, getting your child into college, especially the “right” college, is expensive.
But once all that money is spent, the celebrations for the acceptance letters die down, and the reality of college life kicks in, is your child prepared for success once the college “honeymoon” is over?
The fact that over 30% of students who begin college drop out within the first year and over 40% never get a degree after starting college suggests that there are other requirements for success than merely getting into college.2
If finances are not an issue, the main reasons for college dropout center on social-emotional health. 3,4 This fact is probably not a surprise to most parents who remember college. You get to reinvent yourself in a new environment – and there are a lot of distractions. If a student is not secure in their identity and lacks focus, those other distractions can have a detrimental effect.
Some may say that, “This is their time to explore,” or “I didn’t know what I was doing at the beginning of college, either, and I turned out okay.” But wouldn’t you have like to have known more about how to identify a toxic relationship? Wouldn’t your ability to have fun been enhanced by having clarity about your priorities? Wouldn’t your focus in classes have been better if you understood what gave you meaning and purpose?
Encouraging good grades and participation in extracurricular activities is great but help your child build the social-emotional skills, too.
- Encourage them with specific praise. Instead of, “I’m so proud of you,” you can say, “I’m so proud of the way you stuck with the math homework, even though it was frustrating for you.” Specific praise lets them know you notice them and makes the praise more authentic. It also helps build resiliency when facing difficult tasks.
- Spend time getting to know who your child is becoming. Often, we get caught in a loop of expectations, always seeing people as what they have done in the past, rather than encouraging them to become their best selves in the future. Who is your child becoming? How are you encouraging them?
- Provide courses and training that help build the social-emotional skills to help them succeed.
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